Wedding Planning: That's Why We're Getting Married

Generally speaking, I feel as though my extensive vocabulary is still too limited to accurately express how I feel with and about my fiance. I reread things that I've written about him over the years and I see the passion that I feel; I read it aloud to myself and I hear the emotion in my own voice but it's never enough. In my most uninhibited moments, I'm still not confident in my ability to express to him or anyone else what I think about him, when I think about him. And now, I'm faced with the daunting task of writing vows that I'll have to speak before God, him, and our friends and family.

I've written a rough draft of what I think I want to say but, of course, I don't think it's good enough and I'm already contemplating a full revision. But, something he said to me on Sunday afternoon may be just the inspiration I need to tweak my vows instead of trashing what I have and starting over.

Saturday night, we blessed our dinner and enjoyed a lengthy conversation before heading out to one of our favorite watering holes for martinis and live music. At the bar, we drank and talked some more and even sang a few recognizable songs to each other. Eventually, another couple met us there and we ended the night with laughter and even more conversation.

Before he left on Sunday, he tucked me into bed for my afternoon nap and I thanked him again for making the drive to Chicago to spend the weekend with me and I told him how much fun I'd had with him the night before. He leaned in to kiss me goodbye and said, "that's why we're getting married."

And, that's precisely why we're getting married; there's no other person in the world with whom I'd rather do any of those things. We can sit at home and pray together, we can have dinner and great conversation, we can argue and debate without getting mad, we can go out by ourselves or with another couple and still have fun. We can go anywhere or nowhere and do something or nothing but, as long as we're together, we're good. And, when we're not together, I miss him and look forward to being with him again.

For better or worse, he's my friend and a true companion...and that's why we're getting married.